Thinking about limits again because He asked. I’ve been in therapy for years now because of self esteem, communication, and depression issues. I am very good at tearing myself down, not feeling worthy, not standing up for myself, and letting Continue reading Mental Limit
Friday Play Party: Wooden paddles are awesome, and awful, and pretty, and evil, and OMFG they sting! Giving him two targets, an alcove, and plenty of toys is a recipe for Amazing. I need to quit comparing… no, really, knock Continue reading Things I Took Away from COPE:
Over four years ago, I wrote a post called Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby. Where I talked about how sexually shy I am. A lot of things have changed in the last four years. I have gotten a lot more Continue reading At First Blush
I wrote five pages in my moleskine journal last night. I won’t be retyping it here. TL:DR – 1)I don’t need a Dom to make me feel weak and useless, my body does that already. 2)I don’t need a Dom Continue reading TL:DR – Self Humiliation Play
Once more, with feeling. Two humiliation play classes, one emotional masochism class, several blog posts, several more emails, and various verbal discussions. And it is still on my mind. Well, let’s get it out here and see if I can Continue reading Semantics and Stubbornness
One of the first things they talked about was the different levels of humiliation play. You could play lightly with being shy, or a little harder into embarrassment, or harder still into shame, or further into degradation, or go all Continue reading What I Learned About Humiliation Play
They led her, one on each side, down the dock. It was humiliating, but it was nothing compared to what would come next. She’d been caught trying to pick a fight again and he was not going to be happy. Continue reading No Fighting
The other day, I was asked “Do all true masochists orgasm from pain?” After snickerting at the word “true” for a moment, I answered masochists enjoy intense sensation. Each in their own way. Later, I felt this deserved a bit Continue reading Masochism
Last night’s class was on Humiliation Play. After, toy asked me about it. Said she was alright with teasing, but not the harder stuff, and was that what I liked? I fumbled around a bit, talking about last year, what Continue reading Humiliation Play
I was asked recently what I would not offer freely. This got me to thinking about my limits. I had not explored them seriously in quite some time. Just random comments of, “no red,” or “you know that’s a hard Continue reading 20 Hard Limits