Service: work done in obedience to and for the benefit of another (OED)
Kink: Sexual desires or practices regarded as unusual or unconventional (OED)
I wrote about over ten years ago in the context of group service, and a bit more a couple years later about a service class by Mollena but it came into my head again last night in a fuller form.
I identify as a service submissive, among many other things. I have been In Service (FL-Official) to Him for most of our nearly 16 year relationship. But it is not a kink for me. I derive no sexual pleasure from general service, though certainly derive sexual pleasure from more sexual (service) activities. That is not to say I get no pleasure from performing service.
I am a service oriented person. I grew up learning to follow a man who served other as the highest form of love. I am fulfilled by serving others. As much as I hated the corporate fuckery of my retail job of 13 years – I really enjoyed helping people find what they were looking for, or discovering new things. I have moved off desk at my current job, but I did enjoy helping folks find the information they needed. Which is why I encourage my coworkers to ask me any questions they have.
On the kink side of life, as mentioned, I serve Him. I volunteer for events we are involved in because it makes His life easier. I serve by carrying His bags, or cleaning His boots, in days of old I would clean His house, or serve just being present for whatever He needs. I service top at public events on rare occasions these days, again, for Him, not because it turns me on, but because it is joyful to introduce people to new things. I am not turned on by these types of service, but I am fulfilled as a person.
I mentioned sexual services earlier as things that do turn me on. Cleaning is boots as service is one thing, but bootblacking scenes when He is wearing the boots is a whole different vibe meant to turn me (and Him) on. Sexual service, by its very nature, turns me on. Service topping for my partners turns me on because there is a connection there, and a very different energy than when I top for the general public. As with many things, it can be about intention and headspace, but that is a whole other post I’m noodling on.
How do you view service, dear readers?
Thanks for reading, take care of each other.
