Connection, Intimacy & Trust

  I need to read more Heinlein. An illustration Wednesday night included a reference to a character in Stranger in a Strange Land, who is apparently the best kisser because he completely focuses on the person he’s kissing. That kind Continue reading Connection, Intimacy & Trust

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What’ve You Got To Lose?

A journal entry from earlier this week: The longer you’ve been around, the more you have to lose. As wife, before girlfriends exist, you have everything. All the love, time, attention, interest. Then comes girlfriend, and love multiplies, but time Continue reading What’ve You Got To Lose?

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Reprogramming .girlfriend

We played a lot last year, with .submissive and .girlfriend and .object and .rigger.apprentice and other such silliness of defining my roles. But this week, with his help, I have come to realize some of my basic poly programming is Continue reading Reprogramming .girlfriend

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Writing, Patience and Happiness

I failed at the writing an extra post to make up for last week’s non-kinky post. I spend at least forty-five minutes every day, writing for him because I promised myself I would. Because I was having trouble communicating, and Continue reading Writing, Patience and Happiness

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Polyamory Today

In college, there were times when I was in love with not-yet-Husband, and dating other men. He first proposed to me while engaged to someone else. I did not say no, not until I met her, anyway. When he proposed Continue reading Polyamory Today

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Negotiating with Loved Ones, or What Poly Means to Me

Maybe I should officially switch to Thursday post, it seems to work better for me lately. Poly relationships, I have said before, are balanced largely on communication. Also important are consideration, compromise, and compersion. Sorry about the alliteration, but it Continue reading Negotiating with Loved Ones, or What Poly Means to Me

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