Day Twenty – Do You Understand
January 20th, 2011
Talk about something within kink/BDSM that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
I don’t understand you (I don’t understand you)
I just don’t understand you (I don’t understand you)
I don’t understand the things you say
I can’t understand a single word
I don’t understand you (I don’t understand you)
I just don’t understand you (I don’t understand you)
I cannot understand you (I don’t understand you)
I don’t understand you (I don’t understand you)
~They Might Be Giants, Fingertips, Apollo 18
I don’t always understand the other side of the coin. I am grateful that my partners want to do to me the things I like, but I don’t always understand where their enjoyment of it comes from. Sometimes I remember to ask, I must do that more often.
He and I had a recent discussion about how both perspectives are important. That hearing from both the top and the bottom when learning a new skill helps everyone to understand it. This was a very good point, and one I hope to work harder to include in my journey.
Day Nineteen – A Better Life
January 19th, 2011
Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
Day Eighteen – Pet Peeves
January 18th, 2011
Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
Intrusions on scenes at public play parties.
Day Seventeen – Misconceptions
January 17th, 2011
What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
BDSM is not abuse.
Day Sixteen – Difficulties
January 16th, 2011
What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
Day Fifteen – Curiosity
January 15th, 2011
Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
I am incredibly curious in nature. It gets me into trouble a lot. Someone suggests something, I have a no way reaction, but then a few minutes later, I’m curious to try it out. Have not had much of that lately, so what is on my current curious list?
Needles – Terrified, squeamishly phobic, but so very curious about trying them. A lot of things happened around needles in the past year. Good, bad and indifferent. They are still a top curiosity to me.
Day Fourteen – Real Life vs. Fantasy
January 14th, 2011
How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
I am again on the path of it being the same as the rest of life. Reality is a lot harder, grittier and more dangerous than any fantasy. It takes more work, is never perfect, and does not always go the way you planned. On the other hand, reality is more fulfilling, more satisfying, and well worth the effort it takes.
Day Thirteen – What is the Appeal?
January 13th, 2011
I’m discovering that I’ve already answered some of these questions, like today, so I’m going to link to those posts.
Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
Day Twelve – Funny
January 12th, 2011
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
I don’t really do funny. I have a sense of humor, but I don’t write about funny stuff much. There’s plenty of funny on the internet. This is the beginning of a very strange web comic I used to read.
Day Eleven – Ethics
January 11th, 2011
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
Ethics – A system of moral principles. The rules of conduct in respect to a particular group.
Honestly, not all that interested in this topic. People ought to be good to each other, kinky or not.